40 things I learned by 40
If you have been reading along you know that we have been focusing on love this month….not necessarily romantic love, but rather those things you might be a little embarrassed to love, and well, love filtered through the eyes of some dinosaurs. This month I am going to tackle what is probably the most difficult type of love. Loving yourself. Two of the ladies hit big birthdays this year, and hitting a big birthday can trigger a desire for introspection. You've made it this far, so what did you learn? What would you tell 20-year-old you? This, plus, have any of you seen this Vogue list? Frankly, I barely got through the thing. It's astounding in its lack of relevance and practicality. But it did inspire me to , as our Honorary Lady Gary says, turn inward, and take a look back at what I did right, what I did wrong, and what stuff makes me realize that yeah, maybe I’m doing all right.
Your mileage to this list will vary, you might think it's terrible, or just as irrelevant, but I hope it inspires you to make a list of your own so you can take stock of what you learned, how you have grown, and what a long way you've come baby.
Tiny Doom’s 40 things I learned by 40
- Don’t listen to your High School Guidance Counselor
- It’s ok not to want kids
- You are just as valid if you are a mother of pets, plants, other humans, dragons, or nothing
- Be reliable
- Be capable
- Be open to compromise
- It’s never a good idea to idolize someone, everyone is human
- Know what colors look good on you and wear those
- If you want a tattoo, get a tattoo
- Do your research
- It’s ok to be a little weird at work so long as you can back it up with #’s 4 and 5
- Friendships drift and that’s ok
- Pay your bills on time
- You can adapt to almost anything so don’t be so afraid of change
- Put stuff in your Amazon shopping cart and then give it 24 hours before you hit buy
- Look forward, not back
- Avoid self-help books
- When it comes to skin care most expensive stuff isn’t always the best stuff
- It’s ok to drink most of your liquid in tea form
- Eat your vegetables
- Scarves really do keep you warm
- Take care of your feet! I cannot stress this enough
- You don’t have to smile when someone tells you to
- Always act like you are supposed to be there-it’s ok to fake it
- Watch all the crap movies and TV you want
- Say no
- Red lipstick
- It’s not bullshit that doing nice things for other people can make you feel better
- Bring your lunch to work as much as you can
- Make a family that’s not related to you by blood
- Mittens are better than gloves
- Just do the thing, you’ll feel better when it’s done
- Walk there when you can
- There is a certain joy in day drinking (as long as you don't make it a habit)
- Don’t be afraid of new technology
- Always keep your own bank account no matter how in love you are
- Try to travel if you can
- Learn to make things-food, socks, plans
- If people make you feel bad about yourself, don’t hang out with them
- Never turn down a piece of pie
Ok, if anyone else feels like taking on a list, I would love to see it.
